And then I wondered if I was adequately teaching him the traits I envisioned him having. A sense of urgency to be sure the lessons are taught while I’m still here to teach them swept over me.

然后我就好奇自己是否有足夠資格教他那些我預(yù)想他應(yīng)該有的品質(zhì)。當(dāng)這些品質(zhì)在我腦海中活躍的時候，教授這些經(jīng)驗的迫切感油然而生。

This is the result …

結(jié)果就是……

31 Principles of Life

生活31準(zhǔn)則

1. Life doesn’t dictate your attitude. But your attitude dictates how you’ll experience life. Changing your attitude will always be the shortest and most permanent route to changing your life.

1.生活不會決定你的態(tài)度。但是你的.態(tài)度可以決定你過怎樣的生活。改變你的態(tài)度將會一直是最短，卻最顯著改變你生活的方法.

2. Love and forgive. The degree to which you are able to truly love as an expression of your character, not merely as a feeling, the more you will be willing to forgive. The more you are able to forgive, the more you will be free to love. They go hand-in-hand.

2.愛和原諒。你能夠真正愛的程度是你人格的一個展示，而不僅僅是一種感覺，更多的是愿意原諒。你能夠原諒的越多，你就有更多愛的自由。他們是緊密相連的。

3. You won’t want to go through life tied to your own history, to the mistakes you’ve made, the former people you’ve associated with, the problems of the past. So don’t hold others to theirs.

3.不要把現(xiàn)在的生活和你的過去，你過去犯的錯誤，你以前交往的人，過去的問題聯(lián)系起來。也不要對其他人這樣做。

4. Learn to laugh at your own mistakes, mishaps, imperfections and ego. Everyone else is anyway. And you will eventually. So why not do it preemptively in real time?

4.學(xué)會嘲笑自己的錯誤，不行，缺點和自我。其他人也會這樣，你最終也會這樣。何不搶先別人從當(dāng)下就這樣做呢？

5. Invest regularly in your own human capital, in the development of your ability and talents, in your knowledge and education. Learn every day. Don’t rely exclusively on formal modes of education. Learn on your own. Get excited about it. Read. Study. Challenge yourself. Develop. Improve. There will be no investment that pays greater dividends. Remember, opportunity is a byproduct of ability and ability is the residue of knowledge put to action. So skimping on knowledge circumscribes opportunity.

5.習(xí)慣性地給自己投資資本，投資發(fā)展你的能力和天分，投資你的知識和教育。每天學(xué)習(xí)。不要對常規(guī)的教育依賴太多。自學(xué)。并且對它感到興奮。閱讀，研究。挑戰(zhàn)自己，發(fā)展自己，提高自己。沒有任何投資的紅利比這個高。記住！機會是能力的副產(chǎn)品，能力是知識付諸于行動的積淀物。所以間接來說，知識限制機會。

6. Control your thoughts. They are pregnant with the rest of your life.

6.控制你的思想。它們對你接下來的生活很有意義。

7. Be loyal to your friends. Be deeply loyal to your family. Be fiercely loyal to truth.

7待友忠誠，對家人永遠(yuǎn)忠誠，對真相堅決忠誠。

8. You are an amazing creation of a God who knows and loves you. You can therefore rise to any height you’re willing to climb. You have the potential inside right now, as you are, for something so much more than most people settle for. So don’t settle. The greatest views in life are from on top the highest mountains. The highest mountains are those that are climbed the least often by the fewest people. Climb the highest mountains. Even if you don’t reach the summit, the view from halfway up is better than from the bottom of the mountain you never started climbing.

8.你是那個愛你懂你的上帝一個了不起的產(chǎn)物。因此，你可以到達(dá)任何你想爬的高度。作為這樣的你，你有內(nèi)在潛力滿足比大多數(shù)人更多事物。所以不要滿足。生命中最好的景色是從最高山峰頂端看到的。最高的山峰是那些只有極少數(shù)人能夠爬上去的。爬最高的山吧！縱然你不能爬到山頂，半山腰的風(fēng)景也比你從山腳看到的要好。

9. Be sure people always come before things. Never let your family be the sacrificial lamb you place at the altar of other pursuits.

9.記住人永遠(yuǎn)比事重要。永遠(yuǎn)不要把家人當(dāng)作犧牲的羔羊，放在你其他的追求祭壇上。

10. Happiness is the natural consequence of living your life consistent with the universal principles upon which a happy life is predicated. While there certainly is subjectivity in happiness, there are objective conditions that must be present in the happy life at its highest form. Discover those universal principles of happiness, work at consistently living by them, and enjoy reaping some pretty amazing results.

10.當(dāng)你過著和和宇宙幸福生活法則一致的生活時，幸福就是一個自然的結(jié)果。盡管幸福有一定的主觀性，但是客觀條件一定以它的最高形式存在于幸福生活中。發(fā)現(xiàn)這些幸福生活的宇宙法則，和它們保持一致，然后就等著享受非常令人驚奇的效果吧。

11. Always be true to yourself so you never feel the need to be false to anyone else.

11.永遠(yuǎn)對自己真誠，只有這樣你才不會需要違背別人的借口。

12. The mind is sacred ground, so treat it that way. Take only worthy things into it. Reject that which corrodes and corrupts and demeans and dirties. Treat your mind like a sponge that never releases its liquid, whose very fibers are stained with the color of its thoughts. The mind will absorb whatever you feed it; It will retain the filth as much as the noble. So fill it with those ideas, thoughts and images you would want to have reflected in the mirror of your life. Because over time, it will be.

12.思想是神圣的地方，所以要以這種方式對待它。只把有價值的東西存入其中。摒棄那些侵蝕性的，腐敗性的，低賤的和骯臟的東西。思想就像海綿，它從來不會釋放液體，正是它的纖維材質(zhì)會沾上思想的顏色。思想也會吸收你給予它的任何東西，它會像保持圣潔一樣保持骯臟。所以請給思想那些你想要反映你生活的想法，思想和圖像。隨著時間的流逝，它就會成為你想要的那樣。

13. Cultivate wisdom, lead with compassion, learn with humility, act with courage.

13.培養(yǎng)智慧，用激情指引，用人性學(xué)習(xí)，用勇氣踐行

14. Seek to love more than be loved and you will be loved much more than if you seek it directly.

14.尋找愛多于被愛，你會比你直接尋找被愛得到更多的被愛

15. If you put God first, everything else will fit into the right place at the right time and in the right amount.

15.如果你把上帝放在第一位，那個一切事情會在正確的時間，正確的地方以正確的量出現(xiàn)。

16. The greatest battles you will ever wage will be on the battleground of your own soul. We are dual-natured. We have noble impulses and ignoble ones. Feed the noble and starve the ignoble. That’s a battle you must win. Your happiness and self-respect rely on it.

16.你發(fā)起的最偉大的戰(zhàn)爭將會是發(fā)生在你靈魂戰(zhàn)地上的。我們是雙重性質(zhì)的。我們有高尚的和不高尚的沖動。喂養(yǎng)高尚的，讓不高尚的餓著吧。這場戰(zhàn)爭你必須要贏。你的幸福和自尊就靠它了。

17. Make the things that matter most in life the things that matter most in your life. Limit the time you spend spinning your wheels in the sand of the unimportant and trivial. And never let the important derail your pursuit of the most important.

17.知道對生活最重要的事情，和對你的生活最重要的事情。限制在那些你生命之輪上不重要和瑣碎事情上花費的時間。永遠(yuǎn)不允許重要的事情讓最重要的事情脫軌。

18. Passion comes as much from how you approach the work in front of you as in the particular type of work that happens to be there. Cultivate passion for what you do. It transforms it into something you love doing.

18.激情大部分來自于你怎樣把眼前的工作當(dāng)作一種剛巧發(fā)生的特殊的工作來處理。對你在做的事情培養(yǎng)激情。它會這個工作改變成你愛的工作。

19. Remember to regularly check the oil in your car, the batteries in your flashlight and the integrity in your character.

19.記得要經(jīng)常檢查你車?yán)锏钠停W光燈的點亮和你性格的完整性。

20. The easiest way to love what you do is to do what you love. The second easiest way isn’t too bad either. It’s to get really good at doing it. Competence tends to breed passion. And passion makes work something less like work and more like fulfilling a life-mission. Not a bad way to go about making a living.

20.愛你做的東西最簡單的方法就是做你愛的。第二種方法也不那么糟糕。那就是真正擅長做它。能力會培養(yǎng)激情。激情會讓工作變得不像工作，而更像是完成生活的使命。它至少不會像為了生存那么糟糕吧。

21. Never do in private what you wouldn’t want the public to find out about. And these days, they’re likely to find out anyway. Someone will likely Facebook it by the end of the day!

21.永遠(yuǎn)不要秘密的做那些你不想讓大家知道的事情。過些時間，別人總會的發(fā)現(xiàn)的，有人可能最終會把它公布于眾。

22. Live life like it was the only one you were going to get and like it mattered how you lived it.

22.過生活就像它是你唯一想要得到的一樣。這就關(guān)系到你怎樣生活。

23. Character is a much more accurate voice exclaiming who you are than popularity, personality or status. So let your moral character speak so loudly no one can hear the gossip spoken about you by lesser minds.

23.性格更加的能夠彰顯你是個怎樣的人，而不是知名度，品格或者身份。所以讓你高尚的品質(zhì)大聲的說話，以至于沒有人能夠聽到次要思想的流言蜚語。

24. Do what matters most first. Then, if you run out of energy, time or means, you will at least have accomplished the things that matter most – which is more than most people will be able to say.

24.最先做最重要的事情。然后，如果你沒有力氣，時間或者辦法，你至少完成了最重要的事情——它比大多數(shù)人更能夠說明問題。

25. Procrastination is the best way to make bad things worse and good things bad.

25.拖延是讓壞事情更糟糕，好事情變糟糕的“最好”辦法。

26. Beware the thistles of Pride and Selfishness. But never confuse them with the blossoms of Confidence and Self-respect. Root out the former and water the latter.

26.小心驕傲和自私的毒刺。但是不要把他們和自信之花混淆。拔除前者，澆灌后者。

27. In relationships, two halves never make a whole. They only make two broken halves desperately clinging to each other in the vain hope that by virtue of the union, they become complete. Don’t look for an incomplete half to fix. Bottomless pits of need never make very reliable friends or spouses or parents. Look for a spouse who will make a great parent to your future kids. Date with that in mind. You will never marry someone you don’t date, so don’t date someone you would never marry.

27.在關(guān)系中，2半永遠(yuǎn)不能夠成為一個整體。它們只會讓破裂的兩半在空虛的希望中，極度地依附彼此。，只有美德的聯(lián)合，才能夠讓他們完整。不要指望一個不完整的一半來修復(fù)它。無底洞的需要永遠(yuǎn)不會有可靠的朋友，配偶和父母。尋找一個可以為你未來孩子當(dāng)偉大父母的配偶。在腦海中和這個人約會。永遠(yuǎn)不要和沒有與你約會的人結(jié)婚，所以永遠(yuǎn)不要和你不會與其結(jié)婚的人約會。

28. You have a moral duty to discover the principles of happiness and work at applying them throughout your life. You will be a better spouse, a better parent, and closer friend a more neighborly neighbor, a kinder employer, and better employee and citizen for doing so.

28.你有道義責(zé)任來發(fā)現(xiàn)幸福的法則，并且在生活中踐行他們。你會成為一個更好的配好，更好的父母，更加親密的朋友，更和睦的的鄰居，更友善的雇主，更好的員工和市民。

29. If you can’t sing, sing anyway. If you can’t dance, dance anyway. Life is too short to be concerned with what other people think of your song and say about your dance.

29.如果你不能唱歌，唱吧！不能跳舞，跳吧。生活如此之短暫，來不及擔(dān)心別人怎么樣看你的歌，說你的舞蹈。

30. Let patience be your first response, kindness be your first reply, courage be your default setting, faith be your first inclination, curiosity be your first question, perseverance be your longest answer, gratitude be your spontaneous condition and love be your first, final and only method.

30.讓耐心作為你的第一反應(yīng)，善良作為你的第一回應(yīng)，勇氣作為你的無條件選擇，信念作為你的第一愛好，好奇作為你的首要問題，堅持作為你最長的答案，感恩成為你無意識的條件，愛是你的首選，剩下的就是辦法。

31. And finally, my dear son, know that my heart will always be filled with you. I will be a part of the fabric of your life because my thoughts will have been taught, my example will have been seen and my love will have been felt your whole life. And while my words and example and love will have been flawed, they will have indicated a way of living, of thinking and believing, even if imperfectly, that I hope illuminates a path that entices you to the greatest adventure you will ever have.

31.最后，我親愛的兒子，我的心里一直都全是你。我會成為你生命的纖維，因為在你整個一生中，我的思想會被傳授，我的行為會被看見，我的愛會被感知。盡管我的言語，行為和愛還是有缺陷，但是他們表明了一種生活，思想和信仰的方式，即使它不完美，三十我希望它能夠照亮一條路能夠引導(dǎo)你經(jīng)歷生活中最大的冒險和挑戰(zhàn)。