原諒他人，不猶豫

When people sin, you should forgive and comfort them, so they won’t give up in despair. 2 Corinthians 2:7 (CEV)

在人們犯錯的時候，你因該原諒并安撫他們，如此他們才不會絕望。

"Forgiveness must be immediate, whether or not a person asks for it. Trust must be rebuilt over time."

不管人們是否懇請你原諒他們，你的諒解都必須是即時的。信任需要隨著時間的推移而重新建立起來。

We all need mercy, because we all stumble and fall and require help getting back on track. We need to offer mercy to each other and be willing to receive it from each other.

我們需要諒解他人，因為我們都會犯錯，都會跌到，都會在失敗后尋求他人的幫助。我們既需要向他人表達自己的諒解之意，也要愿意誠心接受他人的歉意。

You can’t have fellowship without forgiveness because bitterness and resentment always destroy fellowship. Sometimes we hurt each other intentionally and sometimes unintentionally, but either way, it takes massive amounts of mercy and grace to create and maintain fellowship.

你不可能擁有一種不需要寬恕的友誼，因為痛苦和不滿總會時不時地破壞友誼。有時，我們對他人的傷害是有意為之的，有時又是毫無意識的——不管是哪種，都需要極大的寬容和仁慈以建立并維持我們的友誼。

The Bible says, “You must make allowance for each other’s faults and forgive the person who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others” (Colossians 3:13 NLT).

《圣經(jīng)》言道“對他人的錯誤，你必須留有余地；對于冒犯你的人，你必須原諒。記住：主已經(jīng)寬恕了你，所以你必須寬恕其他人。”

The mercy God shows to us is the motivation for us to show mercy to others. Whenever you’re hurt by someone, you have a choice to make:

主給予我們的寬恕是我們原諒他人的動力。無論何時，一旦有人傷害了你，你可以選擇：

Will I use my energy and emotions for retaliation or for resolution?

我是要把自己的精力和感情用于復(fù)仇還是用于諒解？

You can’t do both.

二者你只能擇其一而為之。

Many people are reluctant to show mercy because they don’t understand the difference between trust and forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past. Trust has to do with future behavior.

許多人都猶猶豫豫地不愿意表達自己的諒解之意，因為他們還不能理解信任與寬恕之間的差異。原諒是放開過去，而信任則與將來的行為有關(guān)。

Forgiveness must be immediate, whether or not a person asks for it. Trust must be rebuilt over time.

不管人們是否懇請你原諒他們，你的諒解都必須是即時的。信任需要隨著時間的推移而重新建立起來。

Trust requires a track record. If someone hurts you repeatedly, you are commanded by God to forgive them instantly, but you are not expected to trust them immediately, and you are not expected to continue allowing them to hurt you. They must prove they have changed over time.

信任需要有一個過程。如果一個人三番四次地傷害你，主會指導(dǎo)你立刻寬恕他，卻既不會期望你立刻信任他，更不會期望你允許他們繼續(xù)傷害你。他們必須證明自己在隨著時間的步伐逐步地改變著。

The best place to restore trust is within the supportive context of a small group that offers both encouragement and accountability.

有著鼓勵、支持精神的環(huán)境是重建信任的最佳地方，因為這個地方可以給人們提供鼓勵和責(zé)任。